3. You are more concerned with giving than you are with getting.
“Some of the biggest challenges in relationships come from the fact that most people enter a relationship in order to get something. They’re trying to find someone who’s going to make them feel good. In reality, the only way a relationship will last is if you see your relationship as a place that you go to give, and not a place that you go to take.” ~ Anthony Robbins
You are both great givers, offering so much but without keeping score. And you give, not because you want to receive something in return, but because you’re both overflowing with love and it feels right to share your beautiful love with the other person.
(Source: Purpose Fairy)
~ Rudy Francisco, A Lot Like You (via conflictingheart)
Osho (via psych-facts)
Truth be told.
To my churchmates, I highly recommend it. I would summarize it this way: don’t be stupid in love because God has better plans, don’t just settle. In Filipino: ‘Wag matigas ang ulo! The introduction even has a title “Use your head girl!”, which let’s all be honest, ang dami naman na kasi talagang nagpapakatangang babae ngayon. We, girls/ladies/women, are emotional in more ways than one, but we all know that we can’t just base love and romance on pure emotions. Ouch right? But it’s true! It is also sort of a wake up call that regardless of the modern age we face, the old rules of love still apply. Since it’s in a Christian perspective, there were references of the love stories in the Bible which were all enlightening. […]
Robert Fulghum, True Love (via thresca)
In fact a mature person does not fall in love, he rises in love. The word ’fall’ is not right. Only immature people fall; they stumble and fall down in love. Somehow they were managing and standing. They cannot manage and they cannot stand – they find a woman and they are gone, they find a man and they are gone. They were always ready to fall on the ground and to creep. They don’t have the backbone, the spine; they don’t have that integrity to stand alone.
A mature person has the integrity to be alone. And when a mature person gives love, he gives without any strings attached to it: he simply gives. And when a mature person gives love, he feels grateful that you have accepted his love, not vice versa. He does not expect you to be thankful for it – no, not at all, he does not even need your thanks. He thanks you for accepting his love. And when two mature persons are in love, one of the greatest paradoxes of life happens, one of the most beautiful phenomena: they are together and yet tremendously alone; they are together so much so that they are almost one. But their oneness does not destroy their individuality, in fact, it enhances it: they become more individual.
Two mature persons in love help each other to become more free. There is no politics involved, no diplomacy, no effort to dominate. How can you dominate the person you love? Just think over it. Domination is a sort of hatred, anger, enmity. How can you think of dominating a person you love? You would love to see the person totally free, independent; you will give him more individuality. That’s why I call it the greatest paradox: they are together so much so that they are almost one, but still in that oneness they are individuals. Their individualities are not effaced – they have become more enhanced. The other has enriched them as far as their freedom is concerned.
Immature people falling in love destroy each other’s freedom, create a bondage, make a prison. Mature persons in love help each other to be free; they help each other to destroy all sorts of bondages. And when love flows with freedom there is beauty. When love flows with dependence there is ugliness.
Osho (via psych-facts)